“She’s the love of my life, but I can’t stand being with her.”
That was Natalie on the phone with me, four months ago. Natalie has always been super positive. BUT… she likes getting her way. And in her marriage to Janice, that was not happening.
She wanted to redo the garage. But Janice didn’t. She wanted to invest in another property. But Janice?… not interested. And so it went… for over 3 years. Natalie was feeling trapped. She needed a break. So she initiated a separation and Janice moved out.
When we started working together, Natalie didn’t know much about the Law of Attraction. She just knew something had to change. So where do you think we started?
I coached Natalie about taking responsibility for her feelings. Because she was blaming Janice for… well, almost everything!
Natalie started to see her pattern…She wanted something. Janice didn’t. Natalie got resentful. She was stuck in a vicious cycle and her freedom was gone.
Because every time you blame, you give your power away.
And where there’s blame, a relationship can’t thrive. But Natalie practiced owning her desires and feelings, and things started changing… drastically! And it didn’t take long. She started spending time with Janice.
The two began enjoying each other again. They had fun exploring and going on dates! Natalie ditched the need for Janice to act a certain way. She just let Janice be Janice. And Natalie started asking for what she wanted. And acting on it. She took on that garage project. And Janice loved how it turned out!
Instead of saying… “We have to do this. And this is the only way to do it.” She learned to say… “This is important to me.” It was less about forcing her agenda, and more about being in alignment.
Natalie realized she can have what she wants. And so can Janice. It doesn’t have to be a battle. Or a “you win, I lose.” It can be a win-win. That’s alignment, baby!
And guess what?
Janice moved back in. They just closed on a new house in Washington. And they’re excited about their future together. So is there something or someone getting in the way of what YOU want? Go on a blame-finding mission. If you’ve got blame… you gotta ditch it, sister!
When you take full responsibility, the only person who can stop you from getting what you want… is you!